Today’s guest is pastor R.C. Blakes, Jr. RC is a husband, a father of four, a grandfather of three and an empowerment speaker. Though he is a pastor, preacher and teacher his approach is conversational. He believes that transformation happens in conversation. He tackles issues and subjects that are sometimes uncomfortable for many leaders to address and maybe even difficult for some people to understand. He is the author of several books, including: Queenology, Imperfectly Holy, Soul-Ties and others. His most popular is entitled The Father Daughter Talk, which is actually more than a book- it is a national movement. RC’s women’s empowerment conferences ( Queenology) are life changing for women who travel from around the nation and abroad. RC has traveled extensively to communicate the principles of: healthy relationships- self-discovery- self-love, faith in God- and success in life.

Today on the show we discuss: The three biggest relationship and dating mistakes people are making, qualities that are often overlooked but matter when choosing a partner, what healthy masculine and feminine energy looks like, why a woman should never pursue a man, how to know if you’re compatible with someone, why the word “submission” is often misunderstood, how to make a relationship last a lifetime and more.


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What to Listen For:

  • 00:00 Intro
  • 00:45 3 biggest dating mistakes that people are making
  • 05:10 Qualities that are often overlooked but matter when choosing a partner
  • 10:44 Healthy masculine and feminine energy
  • 18:01 Why a woman should never pursue a man 
  • 23:04 How to let someone know you’re interested in them
  • 26:09 Don’t chase (do this instead)
  • 27:58 How to know if you’re compatible 
  • 32:37 Why is the word “submission” misunderstood? 
  • 38:42 A real marriage is “not the divorcing of me for the creation of we”
  • 40:04 Common myth about masculine men and successful females   
  • 43:51 How to not “lose yourself’ in a relationship 
  • 49:01 How to make a marriage or relationship last a lifetime
  • 53:39 When is it time to break up?
  • 57:05 How to become empowered after a breakup 
  • 57:33 What does her identity look like now?

Episode Resources:

RC | Website, YouTube


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